Don’t feel bad for standing up for yourself 🔥🤟🏼 I am without question an extremely apologetic person to a fault. I can remember from an early age always apologizing. Reflecting on it many souls think it must come from my parents, which yes they would tell me to apologize when I needed to but I think the roots are again grown from the critical nature experienced from dance & school. Apologizing for getting an answer wrong or doing a dance move incorrectly or the toleration of bullies from both fellow students & teachers. I’m a self blamer. I take the blame when it’s not my fault. It may also come from this deep inner desire of perfection, wanting to do nothing wrong which only leads to failure. I’m fucking human & bound to make mistakes, like we all are. Within those mistakes is growth & learning to be/do better. Over the years I’ve noticed that often after standing up for myself I immediately want to apologize. I don’t enjoy putting out “negative” energy out into the world & onto others. Admittedly there are times I would love to take on the role of karma as so many of us would like to do, best to leave it to the universe haha. I often find when I do stand up for myself, I feel like I’m a bad person for doing so. As if being silent is the better approach. In my Buddhist, yoga & zen practices there is much philosophy on the art of letting shit go which I absolutely love & give great merit to. But I’ve noticed within what I refer to as the toxic positivity movement there is shaming in people who express all their emotions. How often are we we told to be silenced when it comes to our anger, frustration & annoyance? How often are we shamed & told to “get over it”. How often are we told to be the bigger person? I often feel like this makes people not be able to feel their raw emotions & make themselves smaller. I believe we as a society should stop this. We should encourage others to be seen & heard as long as they are not committing harm. We should discourage repressed emotions. It’s okay to let others know how you are feeling. To not be stepped on. You are your greatest advocate. Stand up unapologetically for yourself, just as you would for your best friend ❤️
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